1 day agoMember-only3 Small Habits That Will Improve Your Motivation for Anything#2: Sharpen your why — 1. Think about motivation as an effect, not a cause If you’re reading this article, it’s probably because there’s some action or set of actions you would like to take, but you don’t feel as motivated as you would like to take them. The underlying belief here is that you’re more likely to do the action if you possess the…Psychology7 min readPsychology7 min read
2 days agoMember-only4 Habits of Psychologically Sophisticated Leaders#1: They cultivate psychological safety — One of the most underrated aspects of great leadership is emotional competence — understanding how emotions work and being able to work with them in a healthy way. Obviously, emotional competence is important for the leader’s individual wellbeing. But it’s also critical on an organizational level… How a leader deals…Psychology8 min readPsychology8 min read
3 days agoMember-onlyFeeling Insecure In Your Relationship? Here Are 4 Ways to Break the Cycle#2: Don’t dwell on past relationship mistakes — As a psychologist, I’ve heard my fair share of stories from people who want to stop feeling insecure in a relationship. Unfortunately, many people get discouraged about ever getting over their relationship insecurities because it’s starting to become a pattern. …Psychology7 min readPsychology7 min read
5 days agoMember-only3 Bad Habits Emotionally Secure People Avoid#1: Criticizing others — Emotionally secure people have a healthy relationship with their emotions. They don’t avoid them or ignore them just because they’re uncomfortable. And they don’t try to eliminate or “fix” them no matter how unpleasant they are. As a result, emotionally secure people have relatively calm, balanced emotional lives: They don’t…Psychology7 min readPsychology7 min read
May 28Member-only3 Psychological Reasons You’re Not As Happy As You Could Be#1: Overthinking — We all want to be happier. But figuring out how to actually do it is tricky. Part of the reason is that we think too much about happiness as a function of more… More vacation time More money More acts of charity More meditation More time with loved ones Now…Psychology7 min readPsychology7 min read
May 27Member-only4 Secrets of Emotionally Stable People#2: They’re willing to be vulnerable — What makes someone emotionally stable? Of course, we all experience the occasional mood swing from time to time. But some people seem to respond to the ups and downs of bad moods and painful emotions with far more confidence and resilience. Over the years working as a psychologist, I’ve noticed…Psychology8 min readPsychology8 min read
May 26Member-only7 Emotional Mistakes Even Very Smart People Make#2: Trying to control your emotions — Unforutantely, most people don’t know much about their emotions — either how they work or how to work with them in a healthy way. As a result, they end up making the same emotional mistakes over and over again, leading to cycles of low mood, anxiety, procrastination, and strained relationships…Psychology8 min readPsychology8 min read
May 21Member-only7 Mental Habits of Highly Successful People#5: Flexible expectations — Here’s my argument for this essay: Successful people tend to have good relationships with their own minds. When I get to know people who have been successful — and I use that term successful in a pretty broad sense — it seems to me that many of them have an…Psychology6 min readPsychology6 min read
May 20Member-only5 Habits of Psychologically Sophisticated People#1: Think about your thinking — Being sophisticated in any area of life is no guarantee of either happiness or success. But it usually helps: Intellectual sophistication doesn’t guarantee academic success, a steady income, or a satisfying career. But it sure helps. Knowing how to study well, for example, makes it a lot easier to get…Psychology7 min readPsychology7 min read
May 144 Things People with Self-Discipline Don’t Do#1: Rely on willpower — We rightly admire self-disciplined people. Because whatever your goals are — from making the Olympics or starting a business to writing a novel or sticking to a new diet — self-discipline is often a key ingredient. Still, self-discipline is a misunderstood concept, mainly because we think about it as a…Psychology6 min readPsychology6 min read
