21 hours agoMember-only4 Healthy Reasons to Ignore Your Emotions#1: When they conflict with your values — People are often shocked to hear a psychologist tell them that it’s okay to ignore their emotions. This is partly reactionary… We see how problematic it can be to never acknowledge emotions — maybe because you were raised by someone who never did, for example. But we then mistakenly swing…Psychology7 min readPsychology7 min read
6 days agoMember-only5 Habits of Emotional Stable People#1: Let go of limiting beliefs — It’s a common misconception that emotional stability comes from having fewer and less intense emotions. But the truth is… We all have painful emotions. How we react to those emotions is what matters. People who experience a lot of emotional instability tend to react to big emotions poorly… They catastrophize…Psychology9 min readPsychology9 min read
Mar 25Member-only4 Habits for a Happier Mind#2: Realistic expectations — Beyond a minimum of material wealth and personal safety, happiness is largely a matter of mindset. And while many a self-help guru has tried to package this idea as simple and easy, it’s anything but: It takes patience and perseverance. It takes flexibility and open-mindedness. It takes humility and self-awareness …Psychology7 min readPsychology7 min read
Mar 19Member-only4 Signs of Hidden Anxiety#1: Constant busyness — Many people are a lot more anxious than they’d like to admit. This is understandable for a couple reasons… There’s a lot of shame and stigma associated with emotional health struggles like anxiety. …Psychology8 min readPsychology8 min read
Mar 18Member-only7 Signs of Emotionally Fragile People#1: Trying to “fix” painful emotions — Emotional fragility is the tendency to easily become overwhelmed by difficult emotions. It’s the opposite of resilience. For example: A small bout of worry in the morning turns into a whole day of anxiety, stress, and panic. A tiny criticism spirals into hours of self-doubt and catastrophizing. A minor slight…Psychology6 min readPsychology6 min read
Mar 15Member-only4 Ways to Be More Productive (Without Being Hard on Yourself)#1: Stop fighting with procrastination — Most people assume that the secret to productivity is hard work. But here’s the thing about hard work… Working hard easily turns into being hard on yourself. And though it might feel motivating initially, being hard on yourself actually makes you less productive in the long run: Self-criticism can feel…Psychology7 min readPsychology7 min read
Mar 12Member-only4 Habits Emotionally Mature People Avoid#1: Getting defensive… — Emotional maturity comes from having a healthy relationship with your emotions, which means cultivating healthy habits of mind. On the other hand, when you have unhealthy mental habits, it tends to produce emotional immaturity. Which is a problem because… Emotional immaturity is a recipe for insecurity, low confidence, poor relationships…Psychology8 min readPsychology8 min read
Mar 11Member-only4 Habits of Happy and Successful Couples#2: Communicating assertively — As a therapist, I worked with a lot of people having trouble with their spouses or partners… Most of them had major problems in their relationships, and if I’m honest, many of those relationships didn’t work out. But some of them had narrower, more specific issues that we were able…Psychology7 min readPsychology7 min read
Mar 9Member-only7 Reasons You Keep Self-Sabotaging#4. Perfectionism — Do you often get in the way of your own dreams, ambitions, and best intentions? For example: Do you have a habit of starting creative projects but never finishing them? Maybe you have a pattern of ending relationships as soon as they start to get serious or complicated? Or perhaps…Psychology6 min readPsychology6 min read
Mar 5Member-only5 Habits of Exceptionally Good Listeners#1: Focus on the person, not the problem — The most important skill in any relationship is your ability to be a good listener. But even though the idea of being a good listener is so well-known as to be cliche, most of us are still terrible at it. …Psychology7 min readPsychology7 min read
