Confidence begins with courage

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#1: The more forcing, the more trouble

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Photo by the author. Book by Benjamin Hoff and Penguin Books.


Let them go and watch your natural discipline rise

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  • Stay focused
  • Tough it out
  • Boost your willpower
  • Be strong

The best way to be more disciplined is to do less, not more.


No. 2: The illusion of control

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1. Childhood Learning


Just because you keep your cool doesn’t mean you’re not angry

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No matter how good you are at hiding your anger, it will come out one way or the other.


#2: Asking for reassurance

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Self-confidence is often about doing less, not more.

1. Don’t Criticize Others


4 psychological principles

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  • Maybe you’re a manager and have to give one of your direct reports some tough feedback about their recent performance on a project.
  • Or maybe you want to give your spouse some constructive criticism about your sex life but you’ve been procrastinating on it because it feels awkward and you don’t want to hurt their feelings.
  • Or maybe you’re worried about a good friend’s increased drinking habit but aren’t sure how to bring it up without making them feel worse about themselves.


3. Practice self-compassion

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Emotionally resilient people know how to suffer without being consumed by it.


#4: Too much people-pleasing

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  • You just need to relax and loosen up a little.
  • Stop worrying and try to appreciate all the good things in your life.
  • Try to live more in the moment.

There are often subtle psychological reasons why we feel anxious.


2. They keep their expectations in check

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Emotional sophistication means having a deep understanding of how your emotions actually work.

Nick Wignall

Psychologist and blogger. I help people use psychology for meaningful personal growth: https://nickwignall.com

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