It’s a great point, Christopher. The pattern of being able to be assertive at work but passive or passive-aggressive with family or in other more social settings is an especially common pattern.

Could be all sorts of reasons, although one that I see a lot is that at work our skill or ability in a particular domain gives us confidence to be who we are and express ourselves. Whereas when we’re in purely social situations we don’t have that extra confidence boost.

Thanks for the nice response!