Let them go and happiness will find you

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Happiness comes from how we think about the world, not the world itself.


Healthy relationships begin with healthy boundaries

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Poor communication is often a result of relationship problems, but rarely the cause.

  • Start oversharing your personal life with your employees…


Try listening to your emotions instead of trying to fix them

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  1. Fix it. The minute you start feeling anxious, for example, your negative and judgmental self-talk kicks in and you start arguing with yourself about why you shouldn’t feel anxious. And how if you were a little tougher you wouldn’t be stressed out all the time. As if berating yourself for feeling bad would help you feel better…
  2. Run away. Of course, it’s natural to want to avoid things that hurt. So we try things like distracting ourselves or numbing the pain with alcohol or food. …


Let them go and your happiness will find you

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  • More life-hacks
  • More mindset tips
  • More coping skills
  • More frameworks
  • More pills
  • More coaches and therapists
  • More wellness apps

What if happiness is about what you should do less of, not more of?


#1: You have unrealistic emotional expectations

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  • Maybe you never seem to measure up with all your creative and ambitious coworkers?
  • Or maybe you tend to feel bad about yourself because your spouse is so patient with the kids and you lose your temper so easily.

Whatever caused your inadequacy initially, it’s usually your habits that are maintaining it.


Confidence begins with courage

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#1: The more forcing, the more trouble

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Let them go and watch your natural discipline rise

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  • Stay focused
  • Tough it out
  • Boost your willpower
  • Be strong

The best way to be more disciplined is to do less, not more.


No. 2: The illusion of control

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1. Childhood Learning


Just because you keep your cool doesn’t mean you’re not angry

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No matter how good you are at hiding your anger, it will come out one way or the other.

Nick Wignall

Psychologist and blogger. I help people use psychology for meaningful personal growth: https://nickwignall.com

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