Here’s how most people think about their lack of confidence:
Fortunately, they’re wrong.
Of course, everything from genetics to childhood experience has someinfluence on how confident you feel (or don’t). But by far the biggest influence on confidence is the one everyone seems to miss…
It’s your habits in the present, not the events of your past…
Emotional fragility is the tendency to easily become overwhelmed by difficult emotions. It’s the opposite of resilience.
And even though many things can contribute to emotional fragility, it’s often subtle habits that maintain it.
The following 7 habits are frequently indicators of emotional fragility. But if you can learn to identify them and…
We all get anxious from time to time. But living with chronic anxiety is another thing entirely…
While there are obviously many things that lead us to feel anxious, here’s the key insight most people miss:
Whatever caused your anxiety in the…
If you struggle with low self-worth and haven’t found anything that seems to help long-term, some of these ideas might be useful:
One of the biggest sources of low-self worth is habitually breaking promises to ourselves:
Self-talk is the voice in your head when you talk to yourself — sort of like your inner narrator telling the story of your life.
Now, most of the time our self-talk is pretty ordinary and unremarkable:
But sometimes our self-talk gets kind of negative — or even downright mean:
What makes someone emotionally stable?
Of course, we all experience the occasional mood swing from time to time. But some people seem to respond to the ups and downs of bad moods and painful emotions with far more confidence and resilience.
Over the years working as a psychologist, I’ve noticed a handful of common traits among people who seem especially good at managing difficult moods and emotions. And while there are, of course, many reasons for emotional instability, anyone can become a little more emotionally stable by working to cultivate these four habits.
One of the biggest reasons people get…
My favorite definition of self-esteem comes from Naval Ravikant:
Self-esteem is just your reputation with yourself.
Recognizing the signs of low self-esteem is important for at least two reasons:
Most people hear the term emotionally strong and assume that it means the ability to ignore your emotions or not feel them. But that’s dead wrong…
Emotional strength isn’t about getting rid of difficult feelings — it means you know how to respond to them in a healthy way.
As a psychologist, I’ve heard my fair share of stories from people who want to stop feeling insecure in a relationship.
Unfortunately, many people get discouraged about ever getting over their relationship insecurities because it’s starting to become a pattern. So they assume it must be some core part of their personality that’s causing the trouble.
But here’s the thing:
Feeling insecure is about your habits, not your personality.
In the rest of this article, I’ll walk you through some of the most common habits you can either build (or break) that will help you to stop feeling insecure in…
Why do some people always seem so calm and zen-like while the rest of us seem to be constantly frantic, stressed, and overwhelmed?
Of course, everything from your current life stressors to your genetics probably plays some role in how calm or crazy you feel on a regular basis. But here’s the thing a lot of people don’t realize:
You can create a calmer mind by building better habits.
Whether through deliberate planning or dumb luck, consistently calm people have cultivated habits that help to keep them feeling calm even when things get stressful and chaotic.
If you want to…