3 Psychological Reasons Why You’re Constantly Stressed Out

#1: Staying busy is your Antidepressant

Nick Wignall
8 min readSep 16


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It seems like we’re all stressed out these days. From the timeless frustrations of work and family life to the utter craziness that is modern politics and online dating, it can feel like we’re drowning in stress.

And while there are certainly many unavoidable reasons to be stressed, the bigger problem is this:

Much of our stress is actually self-inflicted. And we don’t even know we’re doing it.

Obviously that’s not true for everyone. But the simple fact of the matter is this…

We fall into habits that—no matter how helpful they look on the surface—come with too much stress as a side effect.

The good news is that with a little introspection and some perseverance, you can begin to undo much of the unnecessary stress in your life. And in addition to being a little happier and more relaxed, you’ll find you have a lot more energy to effectively deal with the unavoidable stressors in your life.

Here are 3 subtle reasons you’re stressed out all the time and what you can do to eliminate them.

1. Staying Busy Is Your Antidepressant

Many people are either afraid or unwilling to address the true causes of their suffering and unhappiness.

This is partly because it’s not always clear. Depression, for instance, has many partial and interactive causes, from genetic vulnerabilities and inflammatory autoimmune responses to ruminative thinking styles and social stressors. So it can be understandably hard to completely understand all the causes and contributors to your suffering.

But for many of us, despite this complexity, there are at least some reasonably clear causes of unhappiness that we could work to improve:

  • Nearly everyone with depression or anxiety would benefit from more regular exercise.
  • Most people with low self-esteem and self-worth issues would benefit from working to improve their habits of negative self-talk.
  • Almost anyone who…



Nick Wignall

Psychologist and writer sharing practical advice for emotional health and well-being: https://thefriendlymind.com